"relationship's@today.org : "Pornography is rampant in the world we live in especially because of the internet. Without leaving home, a person is just a few clicks away from the raunchiest and most explicit sexual information in the world. Even though a majority of pornography is viewed by men, an increasing number of women are being entertained by it and even becoming addicted to it.
The problems with pornography are vast. First of all, for men, pornography changes the way they view women in a negative manner. Research has proven that just two sessions of one hour exposures of R rated sexual entertainment changes men's attitudes toward women. They begin to objectify women and no longer see them as individually unique or valuable. The reason is because of the demeaning manner in which women and sex are portrayed. Can you imagine what happens to a man's view of his female-partner after watching X X X porn?
The second problem with any form of pornography is that it introduces another person into a couple's sex life. Simply looking at another person in a longing and lustful manner is equal to adultery. Inevitably, we begin to compare our partner's body and sexual performance to the person or people in the pornography we are viewing. Also, we are making a very damaging statement to our partner that they simply aren't enough for us. Of course, when stimulated by pornography, no number of women or men could ever satisfy us. It is an insatiable appetite.
The third problem with pornography is escalation. The same stimulation that once satisfied no longer satisfies and so the porn must become more explicit and raunchy, until it takes over a person's life and destroys you both as a couple. I've heard people say that they used porn to spice up their sex lives with their partner. Porn will spice up your sex life like hydrochloric acid will spice up your food. Porn always destroys lives and robs you of the sacred intimacy and sexual fulfillment you could have had, sooner or later someone get hurt and before long you both no longer are a couple because of trust issues. Even if neither one of you has ever cheated on the other with a real human-body, it has only been mental image talk thru pornography you viewed while together
Let me offer several answers for those of you being affected by pornography. The first steps toward freedom are repentance and accountability. If you are viewing porn, find a good friend you can confide in and become accountable to. In fact, many communities are offering help for those with sexual addictions. Don't let pornography ruin your life and possibly help you to lose the person to whom you care about deeply about get help.
Rarely is a person's addiction to pornography a sexual issue. In most cases, men are using pornography to fill an emotional void or to deal with pain. Even though it can't be tolerated, understanding the reason behind it can help."
The problems with pornography are vast. First of all, for men, pornography changes the way they view women in a negative manner. Research has proven that just two sessions of one hour exposures of R rated sexual entertainment changes men's attitudes toward women. They begin to objectify women and no longer see them as individually unique or valuable. The reason is because of the demeaning manner in which women and sex are portrayed. Can you imagine what happens to a man's view of his female-partner after watching X X X porn?
The second problem with any form of pornography is that it introduces another person into a couple's sex life. Simply looking at another person in a longing and lustful manner is equal to adultery. Inevitably, we begin to compare our partner's body and sexual performance to the person or people in the pornography we are viewing. Also, we are making a very damaging statement to our partner that they simply aren't enough for us. Of course, when stimulated by pornography, no number of women or men could ever satisfy us. It is an insatiable appetite.
The third problem with pornography is escalation. The same stimulation that once satisfied no longer satisfies and so the porn must become more explicit and raunchy, until it takes over a person's life and destroys you both as a couple. I've heard people say that they used porn to spice up their sex lives with their partner. Porn will spice up your sex life like hydrochloric acid will spice up your food. Porn always destroys lives and robs you of the sacred intimacy and sexual fulfillment you could have had, sooner or later someone get hurt and before long you both no longer are a couple because of trust issues. Even if neither one of you has ever cheated on the other with a real human-body, it has only been mental image talk thru pornography you viewed while together
Let me offer several answers for those of you being affected by pornography. The first steps toward freedom are repentance and accountability. If you are viewing porn, find a good friend you can confide in and become accountable to. In fact, many communities are offering help for those with sexual addictions. Don't let pornography ruin your life and possibly help you to lose the person to whom you care about deeply about get help.
Rarely is a person's addiction to pornography a sexual issue. In most cases, men are using pornography to fill an emotional void or to deal with pain. Even though it can't be tolerated, understanding the reason behind it can help."
